Self Doubts and How to Deal with Them
“Doubt Kills more dreams than failure ever will” – Suzy Kassem
Self doubt happens when inner demons try to take over our minds. Unfortunately, we all experience self doubt at some point in our lives – and anyone who tells you different is flat out lying to you. The truth is, self doubt is a normal human response. And in small doses it’s not only normal, but actually quite healthy, preventing us becoming arrogant and allowing us to reflect on and improve our actions and decision making. But when self-doubt starts to take over, an inner hell arises. And this inner hell can hold you back and prevent you from seizing opportunities. Luckily, you can fight back. Here are a few tips to help you fight back against self doubt:
1) Change your thoughts
As we just mentioned above, there are two different types of self doubt: the healthy kind that keeps us humble and the unhealthy kind that overtakes our thoughts. And it’s usually not too difficult to tell the difference. If you are experiencing a healthy level of self-doubt, stop and take time to reflect. Why are you doubting yourself? What do you need to do to change it? But if you are experiencing the hellish kind, just stop. Take a deep breath and focus your attention elsewhere. Don’t give power to the negativity inside your mind. Do something else and eventually the thought will pass over.
2) Focus on your successes
Did you know that how you feel about your past actually affects your future? It’s true! (And scientifically proven!) We all have failures – yes, all of us! But if we spend too much time focusing on them we could lose sight of all the brightness that is in our future. Rather than focusing on all of the things you have done wrong in life, focus on all the things you have done right. Force negativity out. Let positivity in.
3) Stop comparing yourself
If we all focused our attention on comparing ourselves to others, we’d all fall into a deep depression. I am not Stephen Hawking. Nor am I Brad Pitt. And if I spend all of my time comparing myself to them, well…its not going to work out well for me. There is always going to be someone in your own mind who is “better” than you. So just stop comparing. A far better way to go about comparisons is to compare yourself to yourself. Are you better than you were yesterday? If you can answer yes to this question everyday, than you should be proud.
4) Test your self doubt
“If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced” – Vincent Van Gogh.
We all grow up being told that we can be anything we want to be and do anything we want to do. So why is it that we so strongly believe this is true as a child, but we start to lose that thought pattern as an adult? You can still do anything you want to do and you can still be anything you want to be – you just need to push for it and never give up.
5) Set immediate goals
“He who fails to plan is planning to fail” – Sir Winston Churchill
Anytime self doubt starts to take over, fight back by creating a plan to beat it. What are your goals? What are you going to do to accomplish these goals? How will you be better tomorrow than you are today? Create a journal with your goals and ambitions and look back to it for inspiration anytime you start to doubt yourself. Then, start working towards achieving those goals. If your goal is to make $200 a day, how are you going to start towards that goal right now!?
Finally, know that you are stronger than your self doubt. These are just words in your head. They don’t control you – you have the control. TAKE. IT. BACK.